Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Rediscovering yourself after Trauma
Recovery is available for you
Welcome to the blog at EDMR For C-PTSD and Narcissistic Abuse Trauma Recovery, with Joanna Rose MA, AMFT.
Today we're talking about recovering from narcissistic abuse, and let me tell you, it can feel uncomfortable at the start. But don't you worry, because I'm going give you the roadmap on how to move forward and come out feeling truly great.
First off, let's get one thing straight: it is not your fault. Those narcissists, they know how to manipulate and gaslight, messing with your head and making you feel like you're the crazy one. But you aren’t, alright? You're the real deal: kind-hearted, generous, thoughtful, and the narcissist can't handle that. Getting involved with a narcissist is like stepping into a twisted game of emotional manipulation and mind games. And when you finally realize what's been happening, it's like a punch to the gut. But you’ve gotta get back up. You gotta fight. Acknowledge what happened and don't let those narcissistic assholes make you doubt your own reality. You know what happened, and you know it wasn't right.
By the time you’re looking for help, you can feel pretty isolated. The process of falling into the grips of narcissistic abuse happened slowly, over time. That’s why finding a great trauma informed therapist who can help you work through this mess is so helpful for making sense of how you got here. Maybe consider joining my online support group, where you can talk with others who have had similar experiences. You don't have to do this alone. I can help you pick up the pieces and put them back together. I specialize in narcissistic abuse recovery so together we can can help you find your voice again, help you reclaim your passions, and help you see how remarkably strong and capable you really are.
Now, here's where things get real. Rediscovering yourself after narcissistic abuse means that you have got to learn about setting some boundaries. This includes feeling comfortable saying “no” to people and events, when necessary. It may feel strange at first to prioritize your boundaries . Do it anyway. Do it like your life depends on it. If you’re with an abusive person, or you tend to fall for boundary pushers time and again, your life may indeed actually depend your ability to draw healthy boundaries it at some point. And that means making sure you're taking enough time to care for yourself, first and foremost. Learning about who you are, what you want out of life. No more letting the narcissist push you around, no more putting up with their crap.
But let me tell you something, healing from narcissistic abuse is a journey, not a destination. There’s some art to it too and realistically, there are going be setbacks and roadblocks along the way. But you gotta keep pushing forward, one step at a time. You're strong, capable, and you deserve to live a life free from abuse and manipulation. You’re tougher than they are, alright? So don't you give up, don't you back down. Keep on fighting for your voice and one day, you'll look back and realize that you are so much better off.
That's how we do it. Keep on keeping on and remember: you're a warrior. You’re more than okay, you’re a great person who deserves to feel good in your own skin. So, muster all your courage if you must, and start the process of healing today.
If you’re interested in working with me, I offer therapy for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Complex Trauma (CPTSD) at my office in Newport Beach, California, and I also offer virtual therapy online. Coaching is available worldwide. Reach out and schedule a consultation.
